Don’t give me the cold shoulder

How did this happen? When did I turn thirty? CRICKEY!!

I can’t believe that the time has come and gone and I’m officially a decade older. Like most things we tend to build up in our heads, it was very anticlimactic. But it ended up being a day filled with a lot of love.

My family and friends called me from all over the globe. My parents sent me one of the sweetest notes I have ever gotten and two of my closest friends treated me to the perfect New York evening.

Has turning thirty changed me? If I had to answer that in one word, it would be a resounding YES. But in honesty the transition started quite some time ago. I think the hardest thing for me to come to terms with and learn to let go is that I am not where I imagined I would be, in ways good and not so good. Someone recently told me that what I thought I had not been able to accomplish professionally, showed in the work I had done on myself instead. That made me smile.

For a big part of my twenties, I found myself coasting with no particular direction. Being in New York had been a big dream and with that realized, I hadn’t found a new dream. Yes I had certain aspirations, but I wasn’t coming at them with intent. It wasn’t until I found myself in a corner that I took a hard look at myself. Like really look at myself, you know? Dig into all the habits and traits that I did not see adding value to myself five years from then. And then I started working on changing it.

There’s still a long way to go, but I hope I can continue to say that to the very end. I’ve always wanted to be one of those people who writes themselves a letter to be read 10 or 20 years from now. And while I hope I get myself to work on that soon, if there is something I could say as an homage to my twenties and to those of you still reveling in your twenties, is this – make mistakes, then make bigger mistakes, learn to bounce back on your feet and most importantly learn to forgive yourself for bad decisions made. Because a bad decision will always be better than no decision. The mistakes will teach you so much more than never taking a chance – on a person, a place or a situation that is unknown.

And for my fellow thirty somethings, how the hell do you deal with the loss in metabolism? Because I am in desperate need of a drink!

Top Tobi, Jeans H&M, T-strap heels Dior similar here

My other favorite categories on Tobi’s website right now include –
Evening dresses (hello, party season), Jumpsuits, Bodysuits, Rompers (paired with tights), Cocktail dresses

This post was shot in collaboration with Tobi.
All photos by Raja

By |2016-11-07T13:36:01+00:00September 28th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Fashion|Tags: , , , , |1 Comment

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  1. manish chopra November 3, 2016 at 2:11 pm - Reply

    Thoughtful musings.

    Don’t be discouraged. Keep your head down, the big break will come.

    I thought your insta said there was a new post, couldn’t find. Must’ve misread.

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