[fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][fusion_text]How did this happen? When did I turn thirty? CRICKEY!!

I can’t believe that the time has come and gone and I’m officially a decade older. Like most things we tend to build up in our heads, it was very anticlimactic. But it ended up being a day filled with a lot of love.

My family and friends called me from all over the globe. My parents sent me one of the sweetest notes I have ever gotten and two of my closest friends treated me to the perfect New York evening.

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Has turning thirty changed me? If I had to answer that in one word, it would be a resounding YES. But in honesty the transition started quite some time ago. I think the hardest thing for me to come to terms with and learn to let go is that I am not where I imagined I would be, in ways good and not so good. Someone recently told me that what I thought I had not been able to accomplish professionally, showed in the work I had done on myself instead. That made me smile.

For a big part of my twenties, I found myself coasting with no particular direction. Being in New York had been a big dream and with that realized, I hadn’t found a new dream. Yes I had certain aspirations, but I wasn’t coming at them with intent. It wasn’t until I found myself in a corner that I took a hard look at myself. Like really look at myself, you know? Dig into all the habits and traits that I did not see adding value to myself five years from then. And then I started working on changing it.

There’s still a long way to go, but I hope I can continue to say that to the very end. I’ve always wanted to be one of those people who writes themselves a letter to be read 10 or 20 years from now. And while I hope I get myself to work on that soon, if there is something I could say as an homage to my twenties and to those of you still reveling in your twenties, is this – make mistakes, then make bigger mistakes, learn to bounce back on your feet and most importantly learn to forgive yourself for bad decisions made. Because a bad decision will always be better than no decision. The mistakes will teach you so much more than never taking a chance – on a person, a place or a situation that is unknown.

And for my fellow thirty somethings, how the hell do you deal with the loss in metabolism? Because I am in desperate need of a drink!

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My other favorite categories on Tobi’s website right now include –
Evening dresses (hello, party season), Jumpsuits, Bodysuits, Rompers (paired with tights), Cocktail dresses

This post was shot in collaboration with Tobi.
All photos by Raja

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